How TSIP Helped Me Understand My Own Mental Health (And Maybe It’ll Help You Too)
Letâs set the scene.
The sun is setting. Cousins Beach is golden. Taylor Swift is playing softly in the background. Bellyâs wearing something effortlessly cute (even though Iâd look like a crumpled napkin in the same outfit), and Conrad is standing 10 feet away acting like he invented brooding. Jeremiahâs laughing with a group of friends, but he keeps glancing over at her.
Now pause.
Take all the vibes, the romance, the awkwardness, and the why-is-my-heart-doing-backflips energy… and suddenly, it’s not just a show anymore. Itâs a mirrorâfor our messiest thoughts, our overthinking spirals, and those moments where everything feels like too much.
đ˘ Mental Health, But Make It Romantic Chaos
So hereâs the thing. I didnât expect The Summer I Turned Pretty to connect to my mental health. I went in for the love triangle (Conrad vs. Jeremiah will forever divide the nation), the beachy aesthetic, and the drama. But somewhere along the way, I realized:
Belly isnât just choosing between two boys. Sheâs choosing who sheâs becoming.
And let me tell you, watching someone try to figure themselves out under the pressure of expectations, first love, grief, and social anxiety? That hit way harder than I expected.
đ Conrad Fisher: Emotional Shutdown King
Letâs start with Conrad, our tall, moody heartthrob who communicates mostly through sighing and walking away. Itâs easy to call him distant or cold. But as someone whoâs been the emotionally unavailable one (hi, itâs me), I saw something deeper.
Conrad is grieving. Heâs overwhelmed. Heâs scared of being vulnerable. And instead of talking about it, he retreats. Thatâs not just âboy dramaââthatâs emotional suppression 101.
Conrad reminds us that:
- Sometimes mental health struggles donât look like cryingâthey look like avoidance.
- People who push you away might be hurting the most.
- And the âstrong, silentâ type? Yeah, he probably needs therapy and a weighted blanket.
âď¸ Jeremiah Fisher: Golden Retriever With Hidden Burnout
Jeremiah is sunshine personified, but I think we underestimate how hard it is to always be the happy one. The pressure to keep everyone smiling? To be the âfunâ guy when your world is falling apart?
Burnout isnât always academic or professionalâit can be emotional too.
Jeremiah teaches us that:
- âIâm fineâ is sometimes the biggest lie.
- Being the life of the party doesnât mean youâre okay.
- Itâs okay to not be okay, even if you’re the one everyone else leans on.
(Also, justice for Jer. That boy deserves a break and like⌠ten naps.)
đ¸ Belly Conklin: Main Character of Emotional Growth
Now Belly. Sweet, confused, feels-too-much Belly.
Sheâs awkward. She makes messy decisions. She lets her heart lead even when her brain is waving red flags. But thatâs exactly what makes her real. Sheâs trying to grow into herself in a world that keeps telling her who she should be.
She teaches us:
- Change is uncomfortable, but necessary.
- Loving yourself means accepting the cringe parts too.
- You donât need to have everything figured out at 16âor even at 26.
Sometimes, watching Belly cry on the beach while a boy stares wistfully at the ocean felt like a live-action version of my own spiral. And somehow⌠that made me feel less alone.
đ§ Okay But… What Does This Have to Do With Mental Health?
Hereâs the tea:
We all have our âCousins Beach moments.â They may not include epic summer flings (sadly), but they do include:
- Feeling out of place in your own skin
- Comparing yourself to others
- Thinking youâre too much, or not enough
- Hiding behind jokes (hi, Jeremiah)
- Shutting people out when youâre hurting (hi, Conrad)
- Trying to make everyone happy while losing sight of your own peace (hi, literally everyone)
TSIP isnât just about romance. Itâs about emotional survival. About how messy and nonlinear self-growth is. And about how itâs okay to break down in the middle of a perfect summer if thatâs what healing looks like for you.
đŹ So… How Can You TSIP Your Way Through Mental Health?
Here are some things Iâve learned (from the show, and life, and therapy):
đť Youâre allowed to feel everything. Even the âuglyâ emotionsâjealousy, anger, sadness. Theyâre signals, not flaws.
đť Boundaries are hot. Whether itâs between you and your family, your crush, or your intrusive thoughts.
đť You are not a burden. Youâre a whole human. And asking for help isnât weaknessâitâs wisdom.
đť Growth isnât linear. One minute youâre having a heart-to-heart. The next youâre crying to Phoebe Bridgers. Thatâs called â¨balanceâ¨.
đď¸ Final Thoughts From Your Couch Therapist
If youâre in a season of chaos, or change, or overthinkingâcongrats. Youâre the main character.
Your story isnât supposed to be perfect. But it is yours. And like Belly, Conrad, and Jeremiah, youâre allowed to be lost, lovable, complicated, and still worthy of peace.
Take care of your heart. Take care of your mind. And remember:
Your summer story isnât over yet. đ
Until next spiral,
â MindCare FortMac Teamđ

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